Yesterday someone I know lent me this book to read. For those of you who aren’t able to read the image, the title is "Only Child: How to Survive Being One".
I haven’t read the whole thing yet, but what I have read so far has confused/annoyed/irritated me enough to make me want to blog. I’m an only child, so of course I’m aware of all the stereotypes and judgements related to people who grow up without siblings, but even so, this book managed to astound me, WITH ITS EXTREME NEGATIVITY!
Like I said before, I haven’t finished reading it yet (and might well blog again when I do), so maybe it gets less whiny and "poor me" as it goes on, but what I’ve seen so far are a whole lots of case studies based on interviews with only children at various stages of their lives (some are teenagers, some are elderly) and the vast majority of them seem to be blaming the fact they are only children for all the difficulties they have encountered in their lives!
The majority of them said they hated it, at least part of the time, and one even went so far as to say that there wasn’t one day in their life when they didn’t wish for a sibling! I don’t know about you, but I think that’s awful! :(
Without getting too personal, I have to say that my experience of Only Child-ness (AKA My Life, the only life I’ve ever known!) has been pretty positive, and NORMAL! I don’t think I fit into the stereotypical only child mould (spoilt, attention seeking, difficult to get along with (unless you’re this guy!) maladjusted brat) and I don’t remember ever wishing for a sibling.
Amusingly, when I was telling Brooke about this book earlier today, she commented that the fact I am so normal, seems to make me abnormal! At least in the eyes of whoever wrote this book! o.O
I suppose what I’m trying to say is that I don’t see being an only child as something to be endured, or "survived". Yes, some people might have some issues caused by the fact that they have no siblings, and that’s really unfortunate for them if they do, but in and of itself, I don’t think it’s really all that bad!? You could have issues being an oldest/middle/youngest/multiple too, surely!?
Are you/do you know an only child? Where do you fit in the Birth Order scheme of things? Do you believe that birth order is significant in shaping the kind of person you become?













