This post is mostly for readers from New Zealand or Australia, but for anyone else still interested, the RSA has some good info about what Anzac Day stands for.
Anyway! Because I am a Pippins leader for Girl Guiding NZ, I went to an Anzac memorial service this morning. Along with the usual service content of prayers, hymns, poetry and wreath-laying, I spotted a few people wearing medals and various decorations that I assume belonged to their fathers/grandfathers.
Both of my grandfathers were war veterans, and I know mum has her father’s medals, which were left to her when he passed away in 1995. After we left the service, I asked her what she thought of the people who wore the things they had inherited, and whether or not she would ever consider doing so in memory of her father.
She said she wasn’t sure, and that although she understood that it was being done as a symbol of pride in their relatives, and she didn’t think her father would have objected to her wearing his, she didn’t know that she had the "right" to wear them or that it would feel appropriate.
When we got home, her younger sister phoned, and I asked her the same question. Obviously she doesn’t have the medals in her possession, but she said that even if she did have them, she definitely wouldn’t wear them since she wouldn’t feel like they were really hers to wear.
I also thought about what I’d do. Although I don’t typically attend Anzac services (this year was the first year I have been, since I was a kid going as a Pippin and Brownie myself) I don’t think I would wear them if I did go. Although I certainly respect my "Poppa", acknowledge the things he did and don’t think he would mind my wearing them, I don’t think it would feel right, especially Anzac services together. If we had, and it was our "thing", perhaps I would feel differently. I am aware, however, that the people I saw today are entitled to feel differently.
I don’t know their family circumstances. Who knows, the veterans themselves might have asked their children or grandchildren to wear the medals to services on their behalf once they died or became too frail to attend in person, in which case it is obviously perfectly acceptable.
Either way, I’m interested in what other people think (as always), is this appropriate or not?




















